Listen With Your Eyes
An expert on whales was telling friends about some of the unusual
findings he had made. "For instance," he said, "some whales can
communicate at a distance of 300 miles."
"What on earth would one whale say to another 300 miles away?" asked a
sarcastic member of the group.
"I'm not absolutely sure," answered the expert, "but it sounds
something like this: 'Heeeeeeey! Can you hear me nowwww!?!' "
Hearing well is only part of effective communication. But
another, and often more important part, is frequently overlooked. It
does not concern the ears, however, but the eyes.
According to Leil Lowndes (TALKING THE WINNER'S WAY, Contemporary
Books) Boston researchers asked opposite-sex individuals to have a
two-minute casual conversation. They tricked half their subjects into
maintaining intense eye contact by directing them to count the number
of times their partner blinked. They gave the other half of the
subjects no special eye-contact directions for the chat.
When questioned afterward, the unsuspecting blinkers reported
significantly higher feelings of respect and fondness for their
colleagues who, unbeknownst to them, had simply been counting their
blinks. One might conclude that, for respect and fondness, count
blinks! But the larger message is: good eye contact will dramatically
improve your relationships.
Ears are not the only organs essential for great listening.
Whether you're talking to a spouse, a colleague, a neighbor, a child
or a stranger, eye contact is essential. When eyes are focused away
from distractions and onto the speaker, the message you communicate
most clearly is, "I value you."
Today, listen with your eyes -- and "see" what you've been missing!
~ Steve Goodier ~
[ by: Steve Goodier Copyright © 2007 (LifeSupport@yahoogroups.com) -- {used with permission} ]
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